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  I'm not trying to brag, but being an EXJW is awesome!!! Status Update-

  by Coffee House Girl in

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  hello jwn!

  i don't get to check in here or comment as often as i would like because i have been working so hard at school...but i just have to share my news in hopes that newbees can see that taking the leap to enroll in higher education is worth it-.

  i am graduating this spring with a bachelor degree in art history, minor anthropology...many people (including nonjw's have given me flack for choosing a "dead end" career path) but since leaving the watchtower organization's group-think mentality and "leaning on my own understanding" instead... i decided to say fuck everyone else's opinion...i am going to pursue my passion to work in a museum as a curator or archivist-.

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  chicken little

  Well done cofee house girl, follow your dreams.
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  I did it !!!!

  by snare&racket in

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  7 years ago i started on a path i had long ago given up on as impossible.

  i met with my elders and told them i could not justify carrying on as a jw.

  i went and got my high school qualifications and my higher education diploma (a levels with distinction) in just 12 months.

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  chicken little

  Well done, well done, Dr....that is quite an achievement and society at large is going to benefit so much from your hard work. Thank you for persevering, it was worth all the effort.
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  Hello from Still Totally ADD glad to be back

  by Still Totally ADD in

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  it's been 6 months now since my old computer died.

  a good friend of our's had a spare computer her husband never used so she asked me if i would like to have it.

  after cleaning it up inside and out i found out i could not remember my password and the e-mail i gave them i no longer use.

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  chicken little

  So happy to hear that you are both doing so well, life is good and meant to be lived going forwards not looking back. You sound like you have found the right balance. Love the description of your activities, I am a keen gardener....hippy style if I could call it anything. I love my early spring flowers and here in Scandinavia we have had a mild winter and they are all up and like a lovely carpet of gold around the apple trees, the snowdrops are looking lovely too.

  Your winter sounds tough...we used to have them like that but this year has been an exception. All the best to you and your wife.

  Chicken little
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  JW's Parked in front of House doing Returns, Not so good Feelings.

  by Shanagirl in

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  ugh, i saw them this morning, 4 of them piling out of the car in front of my house and going to a few "not at homes" across the street.

  it brought up a lot of uncomfortable feelings in me and especially seeing a former friend who's partially related to my husband's family thru marriage.

  i saw her out the window staring at our home and it gave me the creeps.

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  chicken little

  I understand that feeling, I even get it when shopping if I see someone that may/may not shun me. It has upset me that I seem not able to control my feelings.

  This last week I had a bit of a revelation, I practiced finding the centre point with mind body control, its a principle of most eastern practices, tai chi, yoga etc but it really worked for me. The session involved thinking of someone or something upsetting and allowing your partner to push you gently on your chest, it unbalances you. Then you are asked to concentrate on your area below the navel and say to yourself, remain centered. The partner then pushes again on your chest and it was amazing how the body actually stayed firm. This practise can really help in overcoming negative feelings.

  When I told my 13 year old, he just laughed at me and said, oh that old thing, I use it all the time in my hapkido lessons ( we enrolled him as soon as we left the witnesses some years ago). I was so proud of him as he is the most balanced, calm and happy kid I know (even for a teenager!).

  So I suggest you search for a video that teaches this technique and try it out...it does not have to be in a witness/fear situation it can work in any area.

  One teacher of the technique is Angela Hicks, she does very good presentations.

  Hope you get over your bad feelings

  Regards

  Chicken little
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  Quick builds- Were you on a team?

  by Oneoutallout in

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  which trade did you work with?

  any interesting revelations or tales?.

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  Husband at Haysbridge in 1985 he was full time pioneer at time, I went weekends, I was pregnant with our 2nd child, I got the job of kicking out the reinforced glass from the old iron window frames! Then I was in charge of the kids that came with their parents on a weekend. We sisters worked really hard and were often bossed around by useless brothers that couldn't be bothered to do any real work.
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  What if...

  by DeWandelaar in

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  i was having a short conversation with my neighbour.

  they are very nice people and they are moslim.

  because the weather is getting more extremer by the day (all over the world) and it was cold this morning i started talking about the weather.

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  chicken little

  I think the iceages are a proof that we ain't seen nothing yet! The earth has a cyclus, continents are moving and clashing, nothing is unusual for this planet. We just measure everything in how it effects us humans that is all.
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  How can i continue my fade vs the rubber band theorem that pulls my wife in

  by DS211 in

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  im at a crossroads my friends.

  im beginning to feel that my oppurtunities to get my wife out are waning.

  weve misssed many meetings she still smokes a cig a day.

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  chicken little

  This may sound mean but maybe, just maybe it would shake her up. Why not let it slip that your wife smokes? Then they would be down on her like a ton of bricks. That just may be the last straw, when she experiences their lack of care and judgemental approach.

  After saying that 8 weeks is no time at all, just explain that you are very disturbed emotionally and need space and being away from the meetings does not mean that you are a failure spiritually.
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  Finally decided to introduce myself here

  by cookiemaster in

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  hey guys !

  i've stopped believing the watchtower crap a few years ago.

  i achieved this on my own, despite being raised as one.

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  chicken little

  Proud of your strength to see through the blackmail, wish I had done that and got an education way back when I was leaving school. Sorry you have to live with the paranoia, hope that you find a way out in the end.

  Best regards

  Chicken little
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  New here and having ah ha moments!

  by Angus Beef in

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  what made you realize it was time to go?

  i've been having health problems for the last few years and instead of any help, i'm listed as spiritually weak and of course associations is only my kids and husband.

  all the good jw's have moved to other congregations and are doing well.

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  chicken little

  Welcome Angus Beef (nice steaks!)

  You have taken a big step just to come on here. I was shaking and so nervous the first time I looked at this site some six years ago. I was a born in and was in the religion 47 years. I would make a suggestion that may give you space. Everytime someone asks you a question at the khall or over the phone relating to your spirituality, ALWAYS say," You know what bro/sis, I am taking this matter to Jehovah in prayer every day and I am sure he will help me to find the right way to go".

  My experience has been that they cannot argue with the "Jehovah" card you pull out each time. Mention that you have much mental turmoil but that you are relying on him to help you and if you are not at meetings it is because you just cannot possibly make it, but Jehovah is supporting you.

  If you stop going to meetings, keep repeating this mantra to anyone who calls (in my experience nobody does).

  Hope to hear more from you in the future.

  Kind regards

  Chicken little
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  D'oh. Just outed myself to a mate unintentionally.. Elephant - meet room.

  by Captain Blithering in

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  picked up by a friend (not an appointed man) in his car, linked my phone to his bluetooth stereo for music, the big screen immediately showed what i'd been listening to previously.

  a podcast from healing x outreach on jw's new light.

  awkward much?

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  chicken little

  After we stopped going to the meetings we had a palm tree thing with lights and ornaments on the first christmas. A sister came by with her kids two days before christmas and all my kids were home with their partners, presents everywhere. We invited her in and I warned her before she came in that we were not going to meetings and we had decorations up. She seemed ok and we had coffee and cake and chatted away. (We had helped this sister and her three kids a great deal in the past, even having them stay in our home for 6 weeks).

  Well after she left she went to an elder, who contacted bethel, who told the elders to investigate. (My husband had been an elder for years when we just stopped). My husband met one of the elders in a shop, he told him that the elders were going to come and talk. Don't bother was my husbands reply.

  These days I don't care what anyone thinks, this year we are going to dress the pine tree in our garden. Lovely.